{"id":35278,"date":"2022-08-17T04:26:08","date_gmt":"2022-08-17T04:26:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kenacademy.org\/?p=35278"},"modified":"2022-08-17T04:26:08","modified_gmt":"2022-08-17T04:26:08","slug":"cum-ne-imprietenim-cu-sentimentul-de-rusine","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kenacademy.org\/en\/cum-ne-imprietenim-cu-sentimentul-de-rusine\/","title":{"rendered":"How do we make friends with shame?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Shame can be a powerful emotion for children. Something that may seem trivial to us adults \u2013 like giving the wrong answer in the classroom \u2013 can be an emotionally charged experience for children. When children feel embarrassed, it's important not to dismiss their feelings, even if the situation that generated those feelings doesn't seem like a big deal.<\/span><\/p>\n

"Around the age of 5-6, the world becomes increasingly complex for children. They become more aware of what is happening around them, of the fact that each person is different, and notice the teasing and looks of others"<\/i><\/b>, says the psychologist <\/span>Lawrence J. Cohen<\/b>, PhD, author of the book <\/span>Positive Parenting<\/b>. Also at this stage, children go to new play and learning groups; thus, <\/span>"they are focused on integration and how they look in the eyes of their peers<\/i><\/b>", also explains Lawrence J. Cohen.<\/span><\/p>\n

In addition, social and learning contexts come with new rules and tasks. Some children feel ashamed when they make a mistake and experience the feeling of shame, he says <\/span>Eleonora Villegas-Reimers<\/b>, Ph.D., associate professor of elementary education at Wheelock College in Boston.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We want the little ones to overcome these moments well, communicate with us and train a flexible mentality. The advice of psychologists and the results of research on this topic show us that when children experience feelings of embarrassment or shame, we can support them in the following ways:<\/span><\/b><\/p>\n